- Is the person your best friend or at least becoming so?
This is probably the single most overlooked question among couples, especially young ones.- Aside from sex, do you enjoy each other?
This sounds trite, but enjoying each other may actually be the single most important characteristic of a happy marriage.- Is there chemistry between the two of you?
As essential as being best friends and enjoying each other are, there should be a physical component to your relationship. Dating for marriage is not an interview for a platonic best friend. Nearly always, a woman who dates a man who meets the criteria listed here can grow to find him sexually attractive. If that were not the case, the majority of men would never attract a woman. There are very few men who turn heads. Most men become physically attractive to a woman thanks to other masculine qualities they possess.- Does the person have a number of good friends and at least one very close friend of the same sex?
It is a bad sign if the person you are thinking of marrying does not have good friends (including of long duration) of the same sex. Something is very wrong. This alone should rule out the person from consideration. A woman who cannot hold female friends and a man who cannot hold male friends have issues that will probably sink your marriage.- How does the person treat others?
Watch how he or she treats waitresses, employees, family members and anyone else he/she comes into contact with. I promise you how the person treats others now is how this person will treat you later.
Here's a linky to the first 5 questions and answers: If you're thinking of marrying, part 1
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